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12 Lies We Tell Ourselves By A. Ellis

via navsmusings:

1 I must have the love and approval of others. I must avoid disapproval at all costs.

2 I must be perfect, a success in all that I do. I must not make any mistakes.

3 People must always do the right thing. When they do not, they must be punished.

4 Things must be the way that I want them to be – otherwise life will be intolerable.

5 My happiness/(unhappiness) is caused by external events. I have no control over my happiness/(unhappiness).

6 I must worry about things that might be dangerous, unpleasant or frightening – otherwise they might happen.

7 I will be happier if I can avoid life’s difficulties, unpleasantness or responsibilities.

8 I am weak and need to depend on those who are stronger than I am.

9 Events in the past have strongly influenced me – and they must continue to do so.

10 I must be upset when others have problems. I must become sad when others are unhappy.

11 I should not have to feel discomfort or pain. I must avoid them at all costs.

12 There is one right and perfect solution to any problem (usually mine). It is a tragedy when it is not found.