12 Lies We Tell Ourselves By A. Ellis
via navsmusings:
1 I must have the love and approval of others. I must avoid disapproval at all costs.
2 I must be perfect, a success in all that I do. I must not make any mistakes.
3 People must always do the right thing. When they do not, they must be punished.
4 Things must be the way that I want them to be – otherwise life will be intolerable.
5 My happiness/(unhappiness) is caused by external events. I have no control over my happiness/(unhappiness).
6 I must worry about things that might be dangerous, unpleasant or frightening – otherwise they might happen.
7 I will be happier if I can avoid life’s difficulties, unpleasantness or responsibilities.
8 I am weak and need to depend on those who are stronger than I am.
9 Events in the past have strongly influenced me – and they must continue to do so.
10 I must be upset when others have problems. I must become sad when others are unhappy.
11 I should not have to feel discomfort or pain. I must avoid them at all costs.
12 There is one right and perfect solution to any problem (usually mine). It is a tragedy when it is not found.
